Today I have mostly been in my own mind. I've not thought much about anything else. I know this sounds a bit strange, but I've been taking time for myself all day. Getting into my own mind. And it has been insightful. I have been reading a very interesting book and a particular chapter caught me. It is a book about your own energies and magnetism and how things things you do affect your own life.
The chapter I was reading today was about relationships. All kinds. Friendships, family, colleagues anybody that is in your life. It said about the way you are around other people and the way you speak to and about them. I began an exercise this afternoon with this in mind.
It began with me writing down the names of various people in my life. Some I was friends with, some I have known for years, some I had not known long. As it turns out it was a very hard thing to do. Often I think we just like people because we just like them. But I was wondering, there must be a reason that we are attracted to certain people over others. There must be a reason that each and every person was in our lives, whether briefly or for as long as we can remember. This book told me that the way you speak or think about others will affect what comes into your life. A kind of Karma I suppose. So against each of the names that came to my head, I tried to write at least one good thing or something that I liked or admired about the person. What surprised me was that the people I thought I knew were the hardest. Possibly because I have seen some of their bad points, I'm not sure. Or maybe it was just because I was making mis-judgements on the people I didn't know all too well. I must also admit there were a few people that I had to leave blank, after all if you have nothing good to say, say nothing.
That also woke me up to the fact that maybe I had gained more perspective than I had first realised. The people I thought were my friends were in fact not. I also thought about how well they might know me, or indeed think they knew me and my realisations were even clearer still. Thinking back on conversations I had with them, where I would do something and they would say, 'Trust you' or something along those lines when actually that would be so far from something I would do or say normally. They'd probably be the ones to say that I had changed when in fact they didn't really know me in the first place.
It felt great to be so positive about people though. I enjoyed feeling good about the people I knew. Being happy about the assets that I could see from them. From their kindness, their beauty, confidence or just thier general love of their lives was great. I also found similarities in each of them. This book said that you would attract the good in people to yourself if you were giving out the good in yourself. That I suppose is what I have done. People have been attracted to the good traits in me and have shown me that version of themselves. I guess what I'm saying is that if I want to have kind, caring happy people in my life then I must be that way myself.
Something else that jumped out at me was this ; 'Gossip harms those gossiping When you stick your nose in to other peoples business, it gets stuck to your nose' meaning that when you talk about the bad things they will stick around with you. So don't gossip.
I also wrote ' See no Evil, Speak no Evil, Hear no Evil' down the other day. A great saying that has never had a great amount of meaning to me in the past. Now of course I understand it more, or I can relate it to my way of life more. It really does make perfect sense though.
I can't really promise that I won't join the gossip train from time to time, but I will be trying really hard to stay off the bad gossip train and instead talk about the good things that other people have done. Its so much nicer to hear anyway.
After all, if somebody wants me to know bad news I'm sure they will let me know first.
Plus my happy thinking today really helped when I was Christmas 'browsing'. I was thinking carefully about gifts and decided to give out things that I felt would benefit the receiver in some way. Something that would make them feel good, or put a smile on their face. After all, I think that's what I would want. I'd hate to receive a gift that I didn't particularly like that wold end up going to waste or no being fully appreciated.
And yes, I did just mention Christmas shopping. But lets face it, The festive season is only a little way around the corner. If I don't get into gear on it, I will simply end up forgetting all about it as none of this Summer-time Christmas thing feels quite natural. So I'd like to organise it all while its on my mind.
Please forgive me!!
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