We Are All Human

It's true. The verdict is well and truly in. We are all human. (apart from those of us who are dogs,cats,fish etc) Most of you that ready this are human. And in being human we all make mistakes. We don't always know the cost of these mistakes. Maybe it's a friend, family member or relationship. 

Nine times out of ten you can be damn certain that what you did wasn't on purpose. The last thing we wanted to do in fact was cause pain onto somebody else. If we knew what consequences our apparent misjudgment would bring perhaps we would act differently. The point is we don't know. We have no idea. We are simply acting as we feel at the time and praying it works out for the best. When it doesn't we are made out to be the bad guy when really we just hoped the decision we made was right, in the long run, for all parties involved. 

On a first glance, our actions seem selfish or inconsiderate of others but by making the right decision for yourself is going to save a whole load of turmoil and grief in the end. Surely 'nipping it in the bud' straightaway is better than just going along with something for the sake of somebody else's short-term happiness. If you're going along for the ride hoping it will work out not only will you be miserable but so will everybody else.  If its not right, it's not worth the energy.

It's like ripping off a plaster. Do it quickly and as soon as possible and that's that. It's over. Done. There's no point in leaving it there. It's only going to get more attached and eventually more difficult to remove. It leaves that sticky mark on your skin that takes ages to get rid of. Eventually it goes away but it's nowhere near as easy. It's not like its even benefiting you anymore. It's not helping the healing process, its only hindering it. It's better to get rid of it and get some space to breathe. The quicker its done the quicker it can be forgotten about.  

If a situation is right, it's great to take time to decide. When your gut is already telling you it's not right, why hold on? When something is right you know. When it's wrong; you know. 

You don't always want to admit to the latter, but when you do it's better to let it go. Be honest and move on. Whats the use in doing something to please somebody else if it's not pleasing you? There is a lot to be said for being out for number one. Don't get me wrong I love my friends and family all dearly, but your life has to start with you. How do you think you're going to look after other people if you don't even have your own life together. 

• If you  love it, Do it...
• If you are happy, people in your life will be happy too
• It is Your life, do it your way

If you remember that you are just as important as anybody else people will be around you because they want to be. They know you and love you. You're not doing anything to please just them. I've got plenty of people in life that know me and are still in my life because they like my quirks. I've been honest with them and they appreciate that. I'm happy because I'm me. I've made a few mistakes, I've done silly things, I've tried to make people happy. But that wasn't right for me.

I will trust my gut instinct, no matter how hard my 'people pleasing' persona finds that. 

Remember to do things that please you, you'll find that other people will be pleased too.