Inside the Boundaries

I recently received a message from a very good friend. She too was pondering life and what was to come. But the message she sent me got me to thinking about things too. Like why we feel it so important to live inside societies boundaries. OK, so maybe not all of the boundaries, I'm sure some of you are reading this and thinking to yourself 'I'm an individual, I do what I please.' But how can you? I'll bet nobody has lived their entire life having not conformed to something. I mean, even being an 'individual' with tattoos, piercings and the like is conforming. Conforming to being different. To rebelling against being a 'normal' person. (please note, this is NOT a dig at anybody with tattoos etc, I have them myself, I'm merely using an example.) 

I guess this subject would really turn into one of those vicious circle type of situations. If people stopped giving a damn, then that too would become 'the done thing', so we would again be stepping inside the boundaries that we were trying so hard not to be in. We are too judgmental as human beings. Another downfall in societies plans. I'll bet we would all be far happier if we didn't have to worry about what other people were thinking of the actions we took. If we were just free to get on with life. There would be far less stress. But simply everything we do is going to be the wrong choice in somebody's eyes isn't it?

Ultimately I think that if the people that matter to you and know you the best are there to support you, then why not do whatever the hell you want to, because in the end, the people who care about you will be the ones to advise you. As long as you know that the advice that they give is for you because they care, I don't think that from that you can make a wrong decision. Obviously its probably wise not to go and kill someone, cause, you know that's illegal. But why should you not date somebody, just because you've only been single for a few days. Who's to say they're not the perfect person for you, the last one clearly wasn't... Otherwise you'd still be dating them, right? Generally our gut is going to tell us whether or not the thing we are about to do is right or wrong, if we go with that instinct, things will likely turn out the right way. If you feel it's the right thing, then do it!  Sometimes the decisions we make are the only things that are going to help us grow as a person. I look at my life now and what I had a year ago and am amazed at how much it's all changed.

If I hadn't decided to leave the guy I was with I probably wouldn't have made a better life for myself. I certainly wouldn't have the friends that I miss so dearly. And there is NO WAY that I would be snowboarding at all, let alone on Victorian Alpine Mountains in Australia. My eyes would not be as open as they are now. If I hadn't decided to book those flights, I'd still be working in a chocolate shop in the UK.

So why give a F...? If your instinct is telling you it's right then just do it. Don't panic about what other people would do. You're the only person in your position at the time, so do it for you. Not for your friends,not for Society, not for anything. 

Just you.